They say you
cannot be good on everything, like you cannot be smart and pretty or you cannot
have a great career and a happy family at home, you just simply can’t be good
on too many things. And I think it is hideously stupid.
One time,
someone that I used to date told me that I’m too cool for a woman because I
asked him why we would not work as a couple.
So I start
to wonder, is cool a bad thing?
Women that
love to watch a soccer game and thinking Top Gear is a great show are too cool?
Women that
cook, bake and also excellent at work are too cool?
Women that
fix the broken lights, changes their own flat tires and eats dinner alone at
the restaurant are too cool?
Women that don’t
have an emotional tantrum are too cool?
What is too
cool definition? Like was it too good, too bad, too much like what is it?!
Since when
being independent, knows what you want and doing things that we love are too
cool? Is it because I am a woman? Is it not possible for women to do things
that men do?
I asked
myself so many times, what is it that make me less of a woman in front of these
men, am I to fat, is it my hair or is it the way I talk.
And after I
asked those questions, I asked myself again, “ Really, you’re going to relate
all of this again to your physical appearance, like seriously again?!”
Whenever I doubt
myself, questioning was I good enough for anybody I loudly say, I am more than people
expectations, I am more than those women that got told how their body is their
future, I am more than a woman that got told to stay in the kitchen and shut
up, I am more than a woman that loosing their mind because I’m not a size 6, I
am more than a woman who settled down because I got told its about time to
settled down and I am more than a person who I thought I was.
Every single
time I questioned myself about being who I am, I always remembered I’ve been in
size 6, size 8 , size 12, size 14 and those sizes doesn’t make me have more or
less value as a human, it’s a character, kindness, respect, sincerity and empathy
that what makes you valuable as a person.
So yeah,
being told as a cool girl is cool, I work as hard as any other people, I can
cook, I bake, I watch soccer game, I watch moto GP, I love cars, machine,
engineering, fashion, art and other zillion things that I passion about.
Stop
questioning about yourself, stop listening to what people say, be happy, be bold, be strong and be who you wanted to be.
Vega .S.
Bali, 20 October 2016
